saying no

This morning while skimming twitter I came across an article by Michael Wong who was quoting Peter Drucker. This is what stuck in my head. Don't tell me what you are doing, tell me what you stopped doing.

Well, that has led my mind in all sorts of directions. Things I stopped doing but wish I hadn't done. Things I stopped doing but feel guilty about because I still have the expectation that I will get them done.

And all the things that I'm 'doing' but maybe not very well, or at the expense of other things. The basis of the article was that poor leaders try and do to much, don't delegate enough, etc. So much of my picture of a good mother means that I can't delegate those things. Do we delegate the baking of Christmas cookies to the local bakery? I seem to have delegated the Christmas Card making--but still have a high expectation that I will send at least a few cards to the far flung reaches of the world where my friends and family reside.

The reality is that without thinking about it I am saying no to things--maybe things I really want to do--things I think the Kim in my head would do--but the reality is that Kim likes to be with people, likes to talk, likes to do things together as team. A lot of the things I don't get done, just involve me. How can I turn them into team events--especially living with 3 introverts?

Well, just needed to ponder on that topic and didn't feel like writing it on paper, needed to type--racing thoughts helped by racing fingers. The real miracle is that I was able to log into this blog! Ha!

Wayne and I were told by a friend last week that we were the only people she knew that read so much and actually thought about how we were living--she is quite perplexed by us :). Maybe we overthink a few things . . . but I really do want to be someone that just didn't live 'by accident'. I want to make an impact on the world. I want to be all that God made me to be. I want to take advantage of the learning opportunities around me and I want to pass on what I learn to others.

Well, now I need to go buy Christmas presents, wish someone was coming with me.